Journal Entry – 10/29/19
I don’t know any perfect parents.
Maybe they exist out there in their perfect world… but I kinda doubt it.
There’s a higher likelihood of – maybe not perfect – but GREAT grandparents.
Perhaps even some GREAT great-grandparents.
Parenting is a job one is ill-equipped for, unprepared for, yet thrown into it nonetheless (like learning to swim by being tossed into the deep end of a pool).
It takes great love and faith, infinite patience, and the one thing that you won’t get until it’s almost too late: experience. That’s why there are some GREAT grandparents out there… they gained the needed experience by parenting!
Sometimes you set a goal for yourself, you put your right foot in, then your left foot in… but it doesn’t seem to go anywhere. You fail and fail again. Or the doors simply aren’t opening up for you.
It could be that it’s not the right time yet. It’s important to be sensitive to the “flow of life” and to know if you’re going along with that flow or fighting like a salmon swimming upstream (but without the endurance to get there). It could be that “turn yourself around” at this point means to reconsider if it’s the right time… or the right strategy… or even the right goal. What is it that you REALLY want… and WHY? Deeply considering these questions and your situation may produce clarity and resolve… or it may help you adjust and rework things.
It could also be that you need more experience. They say it takes about 10,000 hours to master something (that’s about five years of experience!). Maybe you have the drive, the passion, but you just need to gain the confidence that can only come from more repetition than you had planned. Maybe the way to be GREAT at what you do is to do it over and over and over again until you start to understand the nuances, the subtleties, the options that right now you aren’t even aware of.
But that’s one of the great things about the Hokey Pokey Way: it naturally adapts – not to your fantasy – but to your reality. It prompts you to step back, consider, re-consider, adjust, and to keep dancing in the best way possible for you right where you are.
Keep at it and in time – like parents and grandparents – you’ll be GREAT!